Wednesday, 18 April 2012

WhatLauraWore: Silver Jewels Dress

Today I thought I'd share with you some photos of the outfit I wore on Saturday night when I went out in town with the girls for a couple of their birthdays.  I must admit, I didn't feel as good in this dress as I did when I first bought it, as after losing weight it obviously doesn't fit quite like it used to and it did feel big, as though there was a lot of surplus material as I was wearing it but I wanted to give it a final outing before listing it on ebay!  It is a stunning dress though and I actually have it in a different colour a few sizes smaller so I will be sporting that one on my next outing.  This style of dress is perfect for those with a larger middle as it lightly skims over your largest part but pulls you in under your bust which is the slimmest part of the majority of plus sized women.  For those who don't like to show their arms, it could paired with a black shrug.  For more tips on how to wear a maxi dress with confidence, see my post dedicated to them here.





WhatLauraWore
Dress from Yours Clothing
Jewelled sandals from Dune
Silver jewelled bag from some random designer in Fenwicks
Thick silver bangle from Red Herring at Debenhams, others from a stall on holiday and Evans
Heart diamante earrings from New Look
Hair extensions from Foxy Locks

Hope you're all having a good week.  Pretty Little Liars tonight... too excited.  I'm really trying to refrain from watching it online.  Anyone else like that?!

21 comments:

  1. I love your hair in these pics any chance of a wee Tutorial ?xx

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    1. Sure I'll film one next time I do my hair like this! xx

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  2. You look amazing! You're so gorgeous Laura! I'm jealous... ;)

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  3. Love the dress you look amazing in it!
    I started following you a few months ago and think you are so beautiful and stylish!
    I look forward to your next post!
    Id love it if you took a look at my blog too If you love it then follow me:)
    Lots of Love
    http://bigisalsobeautiful.blogspot.com/

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  4. I'm sorry Laura and I speak as a large woman myself...but I don't think our culture is ready for such a plus sized beauty blogger.

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    1. I'd like to add here that I for one am ready for "such a plus sized beauty blogger" despite being slim I actually love Laura and her blog. She is a role model for women to be comfortable in their own skin and not to conform to peer pressure. Why should she not be able to give her opinions on beauty products and fashion? Because she's a (gorgeous) larger lady? That's such a ridiculous thing to think. Maybe you ought to rephrase your statement, it isn't our culture that isn't ready, but you're own prejudice is preventing YOU from being ready.

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  5. Sorry but I don't think the world is ready for such a plus size beauty blogger. I'm a large lady too,this isn't hate, it's honesty...diets dont work, and if you focused on health issues, healthy food you'd have more credibility with your peers. I'm sorry but no one else is mentioning it. Healthy lifestyle is far more important than looks....so good luck.

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    1. Hi Hun

      Just thought I'd send a reply to explore your recent blog comments in a little more depth as I really appreciate what you've got to say. You gave the impression in your writing that the opinions you have given are that of the wider community but that they just aren't telling me so I would really like to find out a little more about this.

      First of all, why is it specifically that the world and our culture isn't ready for 'such a plus sized beauty blogger'? Why is it that someone who is so big can't have an opinion on beauty products that others would respect? I would really like to know your thoughts on this and would value your opinion. I'll also let you know mine; I've never targeted myself specifically as a plus sized blogger, whether it be beauty or fashion. I'm simply a fashion and beauty enthusiast who writes about the clothes I wear, which yes need to be larger in order to fit my body, and the makeup and skincare products that I use. I also blog about my lifestyle and what I'm up to. People, regardless of size, can connect with me as I am a normal 23 year old girl blogging, often quite frankly and sometimes candidly, about my life. Regardless of whether someone is a size zero or a size 30, they can wear clothes to flatter them, look after their skin through diet and skincare and wear makeup that makes them feel as though they are making the most of themselves, if thats what they so wish. On the topic of beauty products, everyone, regardless of how large or small they are, has skin, I'm sure you would agree! Whether they have dry skin, oily skin, problematic skin, etc they have skin and they have the ability to use products on their skin if they so wish. Often, after using a product they may chat to their large or small friends about the product and that is all I'm doing. Now why on earth would it matter how big you are when it comes to using skincare and makeup and giving your opinion on them? I was beauty blogging for quite a while before I even touched on fashion and again, when I write posts, I don't target them specifically towards curvy girls and many many people who follow me aren't plus sized. My opinions on a particular product are still just as valid as those written by someone who is much smaller than I am. In all honesty, I think that is why beauty and fashion blogging in general has done so well in the world because women are much more savvy when they are buying products, they know that when they see a mascara advert on TV that it isn't being applied on the model or celebrities own lashes and so beauty blogs regardless of the size of the writer are generally well accepted because theyre written by real women, trying out products, showing real life, untouched photos of what it has done for them and giving their thoughts. I think thats why your comments regarding the world and our culture not being ready for such a plus sized beauty blogger like me have come as quite a surprise and I'd actually love to know what all of those other people who regularly read my blog think as surely they wouldn't keep reading, commenting, emailing, facebooking and tweeting if they didn't believe in what I say and think I am credible as blogger? What I find most rewarding about being a 'plus size beauty blogger' is when I receive emails from girls, regardless of size, who tell me how much Ive inspired them through my blog to try a particular product or to do their hair or makeup in a

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    2. particular way or to wear a dress when they aren't used to it, etc. It's great to hear that they have stepped a little out of their comfort zone, done something a little different and felt amazing inside and out. Thats why I blog and share my thoughts on products.

      I'm not trying to change the world through my blogging, I'm not trying to say that my opinion is gospel and I'm not interested in having a cult following. What I am interested in, is sharing my life with others and for them to share a little bit of their life with me, to make friends so to speak and if those who read my blog can appreciate my opinons whilst not necessarily agreeing with them, then thats all I ask. My blog is a very small part of my life and from it you cant tell whether or not I lead a healthy lifestyle, other than the obvious weight issue and what I write on my blog is a selected snippet of my day and my thoughts... which moves me on to your next point.

      You also say that 'if you focused on health issues, healthy food you'd have more credibility with your peers'. As previously discussed and is very apparent from my website, I enjoy writing about fashion and beauty. WhatLauraLoves is not a health blog, I am not a health care professional and in all honesty, I don't have the medical know how, the inspiration or the want to blog about health issues. Futhermore, why would writing about food and health issues give me much more credibility on a fashion, makeup and skincare blog? I occasionally comment if a product has helped my psoriasis but other than that, I don't particularly have any interest in blogging about health issues. Some bloggers talk at great length about health issues whether it be regarding weight, fertility and alike and they write them so well that they are very well received by readers, I myself have enjoyed reading them. However that is something that that individual blogger has chosen to write about, it is not something that I touch on in my blog and I have never written about it. I don't want to blog about health issues at the moment, it isn't something that I want to share with the world. Regarding healthy food, I really don't think that I am one to comment on eating healthily- who am I to tell someone what to eat and what not to eat? There are some great food blogs out there but mine isnt one of them, I'll say again, I'm a fashion and beauty blogger. I like to keep my posts consistent and inline with the theme of my blog and if in the future I decide to add extra topics in then I will but I'm not just going to start blogging about health issues and healthy eating. Readers expect fashion and beauty posts and thats, on the whole, what they get. Its what I enjoy writing about and if they want to read about healthy eating then there is a wealth of fantastic blogs out there that they can read. Its a bit like walking into River Island to buy a handbag, you wouldn't expect to walk out with a lettuce and a handful of tomatoes would you?
      Why would me writing about health issues and healthy food make me more credible? With that in mind, can you also tell me specifically what it is that I am writing that isn't credible?
      I have and would never say that looks are more important than a healthy lifestyle. If you would like my personal opinion, I think that if you feel healthy on the inside then that shows on the outside. Everyone has a different opinion on what is healthy and what a healthy plate and lifestyle looks like but I don't want give my thoughts on that, especially not on my blog. I'm not promoting being

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    3. underweight and I'm not promoting being overweight either. Whenever I write about my weightloss it is in the context of fashion and beauty products. My 'diet' IS working for me, it is the right thing for ME to do and when I talk about my weight loss it is usually in the context of looking at how a particular item of clothing fits my shape, etc as was the case in the particular post you commented on. I will be writing about my weightloss in the future, when I feel comfortable doing so and whilst it will touch briefly on the "diet" I have used to lose weight, it will talk more about dressing for my shape and the products I use. I have no doubt that in the future I may comment on a body moisturiser that is working particularly well on lose skin, etc in just the same way that if I were to have a baby, gain weight, develop a skin complaint, etc I may review products that have worked well for me but again, it would be in a 'ive tried this and its done this for me' subjective sense rather than from a health point of view.

      You say that 'diets dont work' and I didnt really want to talk about this in my email to you as again, dieting is a touchy subject with a lot of people and everyone has an opinion on it. I respect your opinion that diets dont work, however I dont agree with it entirely. I dont want to talk too much about my diet because what works for one person may not work for the other. I've tried some diets in the past that havent worked for me and some have to some extent. What I found through dabbling with diets in the past was that it wasn't my eating that was necessarily the problem, it was my mind. The eating, for me, was a bi product of my thoughts and so I have embarked on a "diet" that gives me CBT in order to change my thought processes and attitude towards food. Up until recently I have always been a comfort eater, someone who emotionally eats their feelings and problems. I now know that if food was never the problem then eating will never be the solution. I completely transformed the way I think about food and my relationship with it. My life is healthier for that. I have also found some exercise classes that I regularly go to, not to speed up my weightloss, but because I enjoy going to them. Of course being healthy and having a healthy lifestyle is beneficial to anyones life but what I want to achieve is a healthy lifestyle in whatever way that means to me, AND I want to look pretty, in whatever way looking pretty means to me, WHILE Im being healthy. Just because I am very overweight does not mean that the world is not ready for me to write about beauty products. There are plenty of gorgeous women out there who cant buy clothes out of Top Shop. I think that everyone regardless of size should celebrate who they are and make the most of themselves. Whilst I dont think that I am the most attractive woman in the world, I dont think that I'm ugly and I enjoy trying to feel glamorous and pretty. It has taken me a very very long time to get to this point and to love who I am and I dont think that losing weight will make me prettier, I'll still have the same face but what I will have is the ability to maintain the healthy lifestyle that I have created for myself now. Although even then I wont be writing about health issues and healthy food on my blog!

      Thank you for wishing me good luck, I really appreciate it. I hope you can appreciate my opinion too.

      Hope you are well.

      Laura xo

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  6. Well said Laura! Nothing more to add, other than more power to you!

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  7. Not ready for a plus size beauty blogger? What rubbish...inconsequential cr*p spouted by people insecure about the way they look and placing far too much value on judging other people by how they look. Don't sweat it Laura and don't worry about writing essay sized responses to justify why you blog or the way you look - you look BEAUTIFUL and you're doing great work and you've got your supporters. Keep up the blogging and keep looking amazing like you do!

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  8. I'm still in shock over certain peoples comments. Seriously you've never go on about your weight/diet, except in passing, as like you say your blog focuses more on fashion/beauty. At the end of the day you comment on what clothes flatter your shape, what works and what doesn't work- due to you being honest and frank this is why you have made such a positive name for yourself in the blogging world. At the end of the day, you know how much I take into consideration yoru advice when it comes to make up/hair etc when i'm texting you stressing out over a night out- should I not be listening to you purely cause we're different shapes/sizes? What a pile of bullshit. Why do I listen and take your advice for? Cause your honest and I trust/value your opinion. I think its bang out of order how one person comments with such pathetic bullshit- I smell jealously. If someone doesn't like what you write there's a little red cross in the top right hand corner- click it.

    Keep on doing what your doing. LOVE YOU xxxxxxx

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  9. I apologise for my earlier post and have written privately to Laura with an apology, true traction and explanation. Sorry for any offence I have caused. My only comment here is I've been ill

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  10. I want to post and say I have written privately to Laura to apologise for my tone, and criticism. All I can say is I've been I'll for a long time, which does not justify my actions. I apologise to the blogging community for any offence I've caused. Sorry....I need to learn from you nice ladies.

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  11. Wow you look amazing, I love your dress and your extensions look fantastic!

    I found I&K hair extensions to be the best quality I’ve had so far. They’re 100% human hair so perfect for styling!

    Right I am off to buy that dress!!!! x

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  12. Im a plus size woman and i feel beautiful, if people want to say something about my weight i let them, everyone is welcome to an opinion but not everyone has to listen to it.... i dont listen to hate messages i sinply say thank you for taking the time not notice my flaws,you obviously like me cause you spent to long looking and picking out my bad bits,fat,got a spot,bad hair day..... im human so are you and one day you will get a spot to... xx

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  13. Just wanted to say I`m very ready for a beautiful, articulate and interesting blogger with fantastic taste and inspiring style ideas, body size is completely irelevent(think i spelt that wrong!) I find it shocking anyone would think like that and feel sad for them!On the funny side isn`t the average women over a 16 these days anyway...!

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