Sunday, 29 January 2017

Trapped In A Blogging Box

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A topic that I've wanted to touch on for a while now has been money but there's always been something that's held me back. Same with many other topics that deviate from skincare and pretty dresses.

I guess you could say, I've been trapped in a blogging box!

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My blog focuses on female life and style but as a blogger it's far easier to write about more materialistic topics such as fashion and beauty because it's more pop culture; people either like it or they don't and generally speaking, it is less easy to offend with a pair of ballet pumps than it is with thoughts on money, health, life choices and politics. I made the transition from calling my space on the internet a Fashion and Beauty Blog to a Life and Style Blog at the beginning of last year with the intention of opening up the range of topics that I could openly discuss, rather than pigeon holing myself into just fashion and beauty.

However I didn't really commit to this fully. I wasn't expecting to totally overhaul my content anyway as the topics that I've been writing about for years are really what give me serious heart eyed emojis but I did want to broaden my horizons a little.

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When discussing life topics or the things that really matter to me, I feel as though I'm opening a huge can of worms as everyone's life and circumstances are different, what is affordable to one may not be to another and what someone places importance on may be the last thing on someone else's mind. However the time has come for me to lift the lid and let the wriggly worms out to play.

This year, I have lots of content planned and hopefully it'll float a few boats out there and if it doesn't float yours, that's ok, check back in a couple of days time when there'll be something new.

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Reading is NOT compulsory.

The great thing is that you have the choice whether to read or not and there's a World Wide Web of choice out there.

At 28, I've learned a lot but I acknowledge that I still have far more to learn. I've discovered that for me, the best way to develop, aside from trying something out for myself, is through the experience of others; learning about the mistakes that they have made and how they have achieved the successes they have enjoyed.

Life experience will always vary from person to person; no two lives are ever the same. Perhaps you're reading this blog as someone far younger than I am and can learn from the mistakes I've made, maybe you're a similar age to me or at a similar point in your life and can take inspiration from the things that I'm doing to create the life that I want or maybe you've been there and done it and can offer me and other readers some words of advice from your own experience. It's all worthwhile, valid and valued around here!

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It's so easy to have the written word taken the wrong way or out of context and I've often been so worried about offending anyone that I've held back on talking about things that are important to me when really, they could be important to others reading or they may share a similar view point.

Aside from pointless haters, those who don't share the same view often either refrain from commenting or leave constructive feedback, which I love; it's important to remember that not all negative comments are hate. Maybe that's something that as a blogger, I haven't given others enough credit for all of the time as I've been so afraid of upsetting the apple cart or the pack mentality bullying that I've seen some bloggers receive online, sometimes even from other bloggers (Now come on, where’s the team spirit?!). Part of the worry is that if I feel attacked, as a person I either get upset and withdraw or I can't keep my mouth shut!

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Realistically, I think we're all grown up enough to be able to appreciate that this blog is just my opinion on my life;influenced bymy circumstancesand it's there for you to take or leave. I'd never hit publish without carefully considering what I had typed first and I think that is a mutual respect and expectation for the comments section too.

It's the same with swearing I guess as some take offence and others don't. There's been many a time that I've wanted to add the oddfuckinto a post but I've held back for fear of a brand not wanting to work with me or offending a person reading my posts.

While swearing isn't necessary and my vocabulary extends far beyond it, if you know me in real life, then you'll know that this extremely PC way of conversing just isn't real for me and that when I'm particularly passionate about something, I do let the odd potty word pop into my lingo.

Does that make me any less intelligent? No of course it doesn't. As a modern woman, I am perfectly capable of exercising my right to swear while being eloquent, fucking professional and writing about important things that I've learned in my life.

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I'm breaking out of the blogging box, so be prepared; shit is about to get real*!

Just call me Little Miss Sassy Pants!

When was the last time you felt like you had keep your mouth shut and not say what you really thought?

Do you think bloggers should be able to write about what they really think without fear of being shot down?

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*FYI when I say real, what I really mean is I'm just going to chuck the odd post in about saving money, paying off debt, getting healthy and letting go of the past.  I'm not about to turn into the next Prime Minister, don't worry.
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17 comments

  1. I think it's better to let the can of worms out and talk about any of the things you want to talk about! I originally planned my blog to be solely Digital Marketing, but found that I wanted to write about movies, games and parenting... So I did!

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  2. I do think I hold back with opinions on politics or anything I think might be vaguely controversial. Loved reading the post and hope you write more like it. It was fucking fab! I'm starting to write more beauty posts than other things I'm passionate about like books and films x

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  3. It's great that you will be able to share about more things, I'm sure it will be a success with your readers. Good luck! :)

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  4. I definitely think bloggers should be able to write about what they want to - I'm trying to move into more of a lifestyle category as well x

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  5. I think it's good. I like to mix things up a bit and I think adding something that means something can be a positive thing x

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  6. I wish you the best of luck with your new posts! I loved reading this post! I think it get when people are able to open up about other things in their life whilst also posting a bit about fashion and beauty! It's nice to have a mix :D

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  7. Ooh I'm looking forward to reading all your blog posts this year. I'm already a huge fan!

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  8. Good on you. You should be able to write about what you want and not be limited. I look forward too seeing what you have in store for us all!!!

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  9. Something I am saying a lot - You do you. Write about what you want
    I started opening up this month and the support I had was immense. Makes me realise people read regardless but will hold me up when I need it

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  10. I think you should be able to write about whatever you want, but also not feel pressured into writing about issues if it is just not your thing.

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  11. Good for you. I am looking forward to see the new content.

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  12. Oh the power of freedom speech...its a two edge sword that can cut social bonds or give us a nasty cut to remember by!! As women, we face negative comments daily so we women need to tell how we feel and offer encouragement and resources in honest, positive manner!

    Ursula

    www.blueridgebeautbyblogger.com

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  13. Totally with you on taking things the wrong way, but I think if people read more of your stuff they'll realise how you mean to come across. I always re-read something I'm unsure of a few times before I make a judgement on it. Power on lady!

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  14. Looking forward to seeing these new posts. I had a similar issue to you when I decided to move away from just talking about books on my blog as there was so much more I wanted to share!

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  15. You go girl seriously Ive thought the same about swearing, were human most people do it- how about make a fuckit bucket ��

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  16. You're right, people have the choice to read or not without trolling if they don't like the content so from that moment you should be able to just publish what you like.
    I personally refuse to share anything meaningful when it comes to personal life as i really want my blog to be a little extra disconnected to the rest of my life.

    Mika

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