Developing Inner Self-Confidence: What Does It Really Take?

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For any man approaching middle age, it can seem very “hippy dippy” to look after yourself or even view yourself as someone that deserves self-care or support. As men in middle age can attest, the fact is that we can very easily bottle things up ourselves. Not admitting feelings or emotions is what will cause us to (metaphorically) eat away at our sense of self. This is why it’s important to develop that inner confidence that will make you feel more inclined to look after yourself. What does it really take to develop a sense of inner confidence? 

Having a Vision

Sometimes it’s not about who we are, but who we feel we should be. There is a fine line to draw when it comes to giving yourself unreasonable expectations, but there’s also a lot to be said for the importance of setting yourself goals, especially when it comes to self-perception. Sometimes, we can have those little issues relating to self-confidence, because we all have something that makes us feel self-conscious. For example, you may not have perfect teeth alignment, but that’s not to say you can’t do something about it! It’s so important for us to go into our day with a plan and an image of the person we’re trying to project, and when you have a vision for the day, the week, the month, and beyond, it gives you a far more solid structure to plan to be the best version of yourself. 

The Tools to Being More Confident

Confidence is a wide spectrum, and sometimes the problem stems from the internal barriers we hold up against the world, but sometimes it can be about ensuring we have better tools. When we struggle to be a more confident version of ourselves, we need to have the right structure in place. It begins with the vision we want for ourselves, but we also need to understand who we are. When we don’t know who we are, we can’t make the appropriate improvements. This is why some of the following tools can make a big difference: 

  • Checking in with yourself. Having time to check in with yourself at least once a day gives you a better understanding of where you need to focus. Sometimes, we can find ourselves struggling with conflict, especially in this line of career (like when people cut you up on the road). We can do this by quiet contemplation or meditation, but it’s very important to make sure that we switch off everything and take the opportunity to check in with ourselves. 
  • Positive self-talk. Another component that can be very beneficial to people in positions of responsibility is understanding the power of positive self-talk. There are lots of people who don’t like the idea of speaking out loud into a mirror, but there are many entrepreneurs and individuals like Tony Robbins who talk about this as a very important method of being a better version of yourself. 

Inner confidence is such a wide-ranging subject. The trick is understanding what you need to fix based on who you want to be and who you are.

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